Comments for The Lesson of Perfection at http://www.polarisrising.com , comment 1 to 7 out of 7 comments http://www.polarisrising.com Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:40:09 +0100 FeedCreator 1.7.3 http://www.polarisrising.com/the-lesson-of-perfection.html#comment-262 Perfectionism to me means "not good enough"and/or "can be better". The former is negative and stress inducing (a criticism), while the latter is more positive (growth/gain oriented). To get out of the negative side of perfectionism, I found the antidote of simply giving a big audible sigh, and saying, "I GIVE UP" worked wonders; the relief from whatever whip (distant voices at the back of the mind) that is flogging me on the back. Come to think of it, the letting go of the struggle to "perform up to whatever ideal/par" is perfection. :) - gen Fri, 08 Apr 2011 11:24:23 +0100 http://www.polarisrising.com/the-lesson-of-perfection.html#comment-84 Very often, whenever I'm spooning rice out of a pot, I end up spilling bits and pieces of rice on the counter and the floor. I used to get so upset when this would happen! I just couldn't understand why I couldn't achieve perfection in this one simple act. A therapist said to me, "Nicholas, what's the big deal? So you spill rice every now and then. Is that really the end of the world?" When she put it that way, I realized it wasn't the end of the world. All these little "imperfections" really aren't the end of the world, and I feel so much lighter from having allowed myself to be just as I am. Now, I still react a little when I spill rice, but I'm able to laugh at the spill and myself. Blessings, all:-) - Nicholas Fri, 25 Sep 2009 13:29:05 +0100 http://www.polarisrising.com/the-lesson-of-perfection.html#comment-28 years and years ago, back when I was 25 and in some intensive therapy, I admitted to my therapist that I didn't feel like a grown-up yet. it took some digging but I finally realized that my definition of a 'woman' was someone who was happy as she was, knew who she was and knew where she was going. in other words, perfect. again, it took some doing, but I allowed myself to give up that definition. and, along the way, I learned that it was ok not to be a grown-up if I didn't want to. life's a lot easier now. to quote the song by CSN&Y [I think]: 'I was so much older then, I'm younger than that now.' :D - Anne Sat, 25 Apr 2009 14:24:41 +0100 http://www.polarisrising.com/the-lesson-of-perfection.html#comment-7 Wow this is a perfect post for me. And I think many other spiritual seekers. Every time I experience anger or sadness or have a quarrel or fart in an elevator or forget to zip up my fly or whatever, I think it is a sign of imperfection, and hide away in my room to meditate on it. Someone told me once, "stop beating yourself up for being human." Let go it, I dare you! ;D - Albert | UrbanMonk.Net Thu, 29 Jan 2009 14:48:53 +0100 http://www.polarisrising.com/the-lesson-of-perfection.html#comment-6 Hello and thank you for visiting my blog. I am curious and interested in the subject of your posts and will be following your writing. As I expect you saw, I have been with depression for 25 years. It has been with me through various jobs, three university degrees and various changes of circumstances. I have come to the conclusion that it defines me. Recently I had a major depressive 'crash', had to give up my job and now seem to be a casual observer in life. At the same time I struggle each day to avoid being drawn closer to the darkness. Andrew http://www.strayblackdog.co.uk - Andrew Thu, 29 Jan 2009 01:33:13 +0100 http://www.polarisrising.com/the-lesson-of-perfection.html#comment-5 To me, perfection implies perfect learning. Not an accumulation, but a way of learning. In other words, information gets processed without resistance. Of course there's no way we can ever know everything in the world - but our minds can move with fluidity and grace. - Matthew Mon, 26 Jan 2009 15:41:36 +0100 http://www.polarisrising.com/the-lesson-of-perfection.html#comment-4 Perfection implies you know it all and if you know it all there is no room to learn - In my world when you are no longer learning you are stuck. - Bruno LoGreco Mon, 26 Jan 2009 11:48:31 +0100