This question is wonderful because it shows that any question can lead to a wonderful and empowering answer, and that it is your intent that makes all the difference.  It was phrased as: "How can I change things, truly?  And how can other people change in my life?   How will everything be able to change so that I can interact better with people in my life?"

Here is Polaris' response:

We would like you at this time to begin thinking about your life in terms of the energetic connections that you share with the people around you. In other words, if you were to think of yourself at the center of circle that extends past you, and the other people in your life as being in the center of their own circles, you will see that as you interact, as you move closer and then farther apart from these people in your life, you see the circles intersect at times.  That is when you come within the sphere of another's energy. You will notice that depending on who you are interacting with, the energy of their circle feels different to you.  It would be a good time for you to begin noticing how you feel when you interact with these different people: in other words, when your circle of energy intersects theirs.

Notice also how far your circle extends around you. Notice when your circle comes in contact with someone else's and how far theirs extends from them. Some people easily move into your energy field, seemingly without recognition for the invisible boundary that surrounds you.  This, we have seen, causes a reaction in you.  Begin noticing this reaction. Other people are more tentative as they approach your entry circle, and do not necessarily approach it with a feeling of ownership for what surrounds you as well as what surrounds them.  We shall not at this time take specific identification of anyone in your life, for it would be more useful if that were a part of your noticing process.

You have asked us tonight about change.  That implies that there is some amount of dissatisfaction with what is occurring for you presently and has been in the past.  We remind you that change is a necessary part of your humanity and to at any time expect things to remain unchanging would be unrealistic. However, your asking about change leads us to believe that you are perhaps feeling some sense of duty or obligation to enact such change around you.  We realize also that this is also to increase your own sense of comfort. There is of course nothing wrong with this.  But understand that you have no obligation to provide for anyone else's comfort but your own. In other words, we encourage you to feel your own feelings and to think your own thoughts and allow them to be separate from the feelings and thoughts of those around you.  At your young physical age, we understand this is perhaps a major concept.  Many people much older than you have still not grasped this.  But there is within you some amount of distance, anyway, from others. This is inherent in you and it is part of the choices that you are making that create the experiences you will have in this lifetime.  There is nothing wrong with this choice; it is simply a choice to experience life in a certain way and under certain circumstances.

We will speak to you now a little about conflict; it seems to us that it may primarily be in the area of conflict that you are most concerned with at this time.  Make no mistake about it—conflict makes you feel uncomfortable.  You would like for everyone around you to get along.  Energetically speaking, things flow more and you are left more free to experience things without a lot of energetic interference if there is less conflict.  Conflict, therefore, is something of an interruption to you.

So what to do about it?  It is possible that you could change your perception and decide what feels like conflict today simply isn't.  We admit this is likely a difficult choice.  Or, you could take matters into your own hands and attempt to make those around you disengage, thereby eliminating the conflict. However, imposing your choices upon others will always create additional consequences, some of which you may not wish to accept.  So that may not again be the optimum choice for you at this time.  A third possibility would be to begin to work on an energetic level with those around you.  In other words, to consciously smooth out the ripples in the energy fields of those people in your life who seem most prone to conflict.

We think you may know what we mean: "smoothing out the ripples".  This could be an exercise that you perform every few days, lasting a few minutes, and the effects should last long enough into the next session.  It is not something that you would need to do during the actual conflict itself.  During those times, we would encourage you to allow yourself to be free and respond as you see fit based on the situation.