Most of you will be able to, in some fashion, step back from your life to the extent of which you will not necessarily remove anger from your experience, but be able to perceive your own wholeness. By staying in the expansive end of the spectrum of anger you increase your perception. You are aware of the potential of your bigness, yet you're also aware that there something missing. And you're okay with that!

[Note: This is Part 2 of a two-part series on anger, so please refer back to that for the first installment of this article. Both Part 1 and Part 2 are direct transcriptions from a personal session with Polaris.]

Anger can manifest in different ways and there are seven different levels to this manifestation.

It is limiting to try to boil down an entire spectrum into levels.   Within each of those levels, of course, exists a part of the spectrum.  This is only a division of the entire spectrum into seven sections, each of which is a spectrum in itself.  If you have that understanding, and you have the understanding that there are multiple other factors also affecting one's perception, then you understand how difficult it is to narrow down this wide experience to particular words that then makes sense to you.  This concept holds true for anything we discuss that is discussed in terms of "levels," and this concept may be useful to apply to everything that you have already heard about that is discussed in terms of these levels.

We will discuss the levels of anger on a scale from the very smallest to the most expansive.

• Level 1: ire. This is an explosive state. It is a blaming state. It attributes the lack you feel to others or to yourself fully. It does not account for any possibility of there being anything but a lack. It is a fear-based state and tends to be quite isolating. It alienates others.
• Level 2: annoyance. At this level you begin to acknowledge a difference in causation of the feeling. Yet you is not able to discern the nature of the lack, and there is concern that you will always exist in that state.
• Level 3: contentiousness. Level 3 looks toward others or to the Self and is unhappy with the results. There is an attempt to blame, but there is no satisfaction from the blaming. This may be the most confusing level to be immersed in, as there are no clear answers, yet there is a desire for clear answers.
• Level 4: attainment. At this level there is a profound sadness. The blame is not satisfying, but the amount of confusion is heightened. However, the person operating in this level does indeed begin to step back a little and to begin to grasp the concept that there may be a wholeness. However, the wholeness is not easily evident and there is much fear from the perception of lack. Sadness arises at the inability to make strong connections with what is being perceived.
• Level 5: euphoria. This is the level where the wholeness is perceived on a knowingness level in the heart, mind, and in the being. There is still the perception of lack, but there is the awareness that there is more. And from that awareness comes a completed or heightened sense of wholeness of the Self. It is not clear where this comes from, and indeed the person operating at this level will search for answers to explain the apparent discrepancies, but there is not a great degree of questioning at this level. There is euphoria, then, from finally accepting the Self as being whole despite the apparent perception of lack.
• Level 6: connection. In this level you see the wholeness. This level is seldom attained, and is typically attained only through pre-life agreement to do so. In other words, you will purposely set up certain situations in life—challenges and perceptions—that enable you to move through into this level of connection and to see how many ways there are connections between perception of the Self, perception of others, and perception of the entire universe. Not only is the lack seen, but there is love for the lack.
• Level 7 is a state of complete love and acceptance for all the ways in which perception can manifest.

Now, you may be asking, “what do these levels have to do with anger exactly, because I didn't hear a lot about anger!” You are correct. Culturally, anger is a manifestation of a perception. To our mind, however, it is an energetic state. You may be interested to know that for any group of, say, 10 people, you will get 10 different answers if you asked them what they feel when they feel anger, yet everyone accepts that the feeling they feel is indeed anger. It is much like asking what is the color green. Does everyone perceive green the same way? Are you sure? How do you know?

Anger in the higher levels—level 5 (and partially level four) and above—tends to, for most people, manifest as a heightened sense of awareness: a sense of power, a sense of bigness, a sense of expansion, and a sense of perception of how huge everything is, yet how huge you are in that also. Anger at the lower levels tends to manifest as a huge empty feeling of smallness. The lack overpowers any sense of the anger and the feeling of anger within the Self wants to overpower that huge feeling of smallness.  At the lower levels there is a constant disparity, a constant interplay, a constant struggle. It can be very frustrating.

Question: I've always thought that anger is appropriate to show when someone crosses healthy boundaries.

Again, anger is a learned response to a perception of lack. Now how does this relate to the crossing of boundaries and is anger appropriate in this instance?

By setting boundaries you set up a confinement around yourself. It is a place of safety. It is a place that you can call yours. If someone moves into that space you give a response. You are perceiving that as anger. If someone moves into your space it is because you have created a limitation around yourself. Instead of expanding into the entirety of yourself (which is the entirety of the universe, for then you would see no lack and there would be no space between you), you have created this fence. If everyone who interacted was to bring their entire selves and all their bigness to the interaction there wouldn't be a bumping-up of boundaries, but rather there would be an exchange. There would be an overlap, with each person in the interaction feeling their own bigness and being comfortable in that space and comfortable with others in their wholeness as well.

The problem arises when you interact with others who sense more of their lack than their completeness. They are bringing their own frustrations at their perceptions to the exchange, and what you are feeling is that hole that stands between you. This causes fear and causes, "Well, maybe I have that hole too, and maybe I need to get smaller so that I don't feel that!"

Realizing that you always can feel that space, even if that space "belongs to someone else" is extremely empowering. You have all the space you need. It extends forever, in every direction.

Now you're still asking how does this relate to anger? Again, having a response to a feeling that someone has “crossed your fence” is a choice that you can make, and it keeps people from crossing your fence in the future. You want to maintain that security, that safe place. And that's a choice. It is frightening to think about not having those barriers, frightening to expand yourself into all that you are, because you can't see the edges of it. There are no edges! They don't exist—they go on forever. But because you can't see them it becomes frightening. Because you can't feel them you are unsure about it. That uncertainty causes a feeling of imbalance. We spoke before of how a feeling of being imbalanced causes a responsive of anger.

We realize it's a very different way of looking at things than you have been used to doing. So give yourself time.